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The picture above is of Grace Michelle, who is due to arive in a couple months. You’ll see the connection to the picture as you read on.

Adoro Te Devote has started a meme, and has tagged me. Here are the rules:
1. Honor a living hero
2. Preference given to Firefighters, Police Officers, Paramedics, EMT’s, Dispatchers
3. Not everyone is acquainted with someone fitting into these categories. If this is the case, then honor someone else, a hero in your life who is willing to “give all” in some way. It can be a priest, a pastor, a teacher, a relative, a friend…etc.

First, thanks! I kinda like these. :) Second, let me say that this is not easy. I am one of those Gen Xers who doesn’t have much in the way of heroes. There have been people who have influenced me, whom I admire, whom I appreciate, for whom I thank God. But not any real “heroes.” Oh, I could probably pull a cliché, but that would not be much fun for you or me. So I was stumped. But as I was driving Sunday night it came to me.

I hope this person is still living, but I don’t know - the event happened about 23 years ago, and it didn’t happen to me - though I witnessed it.

It was early in my high school years. I think it was between freshman and sophomore year. I was living at school then and was either home on the weekend or for Easter break. Anyway, Mom was having medical issues. Something was wrong. She had gone to the doctor, and he said he thought she had a tumor. I am not sure of the details, but I did know that she was worried. The doctor prescribed some sort of medication that would help if it was tumor, and I remember us going to the local Sav-on drug store to get the prescription filled. I still remember that day because, something happened that I had not seen before nor since.

Later that day I remember sitting at the kitchen table, where you can see the front door. I don’t remember how long it was since we had gotten home, but there was a knock on the door. I think my sister opened it. A man was at the door asking to see Mom. It was the pharmacist. Now, perhaps in the “old days” (circa 1880) pharmacists would visit your house. But in the early 1980s, to have a stranger make a house call…? It isn’t really “me” decade behavior.

He told Mom that if she had any reason to think that she was pregnant, not to take the medication. Now, the doctors told Mom that she would never have children again after my sister (who was 12 by then). This was very odd to hear, but with a warning like that, would you take the medication?

Mom didn’t take it. The tumor turned out to not be a tumor, but my brother. When I look back at my life, there were lots of people who helped me and made a huge difference in my life. But I can think of only this one time where I witnessed a person save the life of someone close to me.

To keep this going, I tag:
Jerry Grosso at My Autistic Boy and Other Adventures in Fatherhood
Moneybags at A Catholic Life (if he is not too swamped)
Amber at This Catholic Journey
Ukok at Ukok’s Place
and… Aaron Calloway, who is lurking as a reader here. AC, just post it in the comments. :)

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7 Responses to “Heroes”

Adoro Te Devote, Said:

Wow, that one hit me like a ton of bricks! Great story!

Jerry Grasso, Said:

Hmmmm - not sure I have anything like that. Not even close. I’m not much on heroes - fun to read about in comic books. I tend to look at that more like real people doing the right things and going beyond the everyday. But heroes are tough. I think the pharmacist did the right thing. I guess a hero to me is a guy or gal that runs into a flaming building and pulls out an infant. But he/she ain’t a cop or firefighter. See, I see that as them doing their job, and doing it well. They certainly deserve a thank you and a warm fuzzy feeling… but I’m not sure they are a hero.

Now, if they are off duty and jump into a lake to save a drowning kid (and not the lifeguard…) that might be so to me. I dunno - like I said, I’m not a hero kind of guy. Could have something to do with what I do for a living, eh Kaiser? :-)

RobK, Said:

Jerry, my cynical friend.

I hear what you say, but I think you don’t really beleive that. I know your line of work certainly is about spin and let’s you see more than pure motives, but I am sure you think different. The big kind of heroes are there, though perhaps they are so rare that many of us never experience their heroics personally. We just need to think of 5 years ago, or pretty much any disaster.

But I am not sure that heroes need to be newsworthy. “Doing the right thing” is not that common in today’s world - unless it is convenient or beneficial. I can think of countless times in business where otherwise “good” people do not do what is “right.” It is less profitable, it is not popular, or it doesn’t make for good corporate politics. Maybe doing what is “right” when it is not in one’s own self interest is heroic - but in a quiet way.

Any guy who could go from saying they should do away with NPR to say he listens everyday must be able to change his mind on heroes. Besides, I know you aren’t half as cynical as you let on - I read your blog. :-)

Jerry Grasso, Said:

Now Rob - you are, as they say here in ATL, ‘misrepreszzentin”!

Firefighters running into a burning building - to me - are not heroes. They are doing their job that they are paid to do. I just am not going to make a hero of them doing this because it is trendy to do so. Nor FoxNews’ wanting to make someone so to get more eyeballs from CNN.

If you sign up with the National Guard, and you get money to pay for college, and you get called up and go fight the bad guy…you are getting paid to do it.

Should there a be a level of true heroism that is above and beyond?

I don’t think your Mom’s pharmacist is a hero. I think he absolutely did the right thing AND that your Mom and Dad still use that CVS/Walgreens/Save On still due to his honesty as a businessman. But to me, he’s not a hero.

Your hero discussion, to me, was about personal people. Like I said, I’m not sure I have anything like that. I have people I look up to, and have respect for, but I’m not sure they qualify for a hero.

Another example - I roll my eyes anytime I hear an adult say their parents are their heroes. Really, they went to your games as a kid and supported you and helped you with your homework, and told you to not do drugs. Hmmm - isn’t that good parenting. Sure, pat them on the back, but they really aren’t heroes.

In fact, I’m very much in agreement with you, I think heroes should not be someone that seeks the limelight. I haven’t given it much thought, but my gut tells me if you are seeking some celebrity, you aren’t really being a ‘hero’ for the right reasons.

Again, I believe in good people doing good and right things, but I don’t go overboard. Like I say on my blog. I’m the best daddy I can be, but I know I make mistakes. I try to be better, but I can live with not being ‘Father Knows Best’ all the time. That don’t make me a hero, it makes me a good man.

And I do believe doing the right thing is still in vogue. Its all that NPR has to go on in the world these days, finding people doing the good things out there, and staying under Sean Hannity’s radar.

So there!

Jerry

Jennifer, Said:

That gave me chills up my spine.

I’m sure your brother would say that pharmacist is a hero.

Amber, Said:

Wow… what a great story!

ukok, Said:

What an absolutely beautiful story of life! And then to find my name at the bottom of the post to enable me to share a special story too…wonderful!

Thanks Rob!

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